Constructing an Affective Statement
When responding to behavior (either to reinforce positive behaviors or re-direct negative behaviors with any member of the school community), the following three steps will assist in the construction of an affective statement.
Step 1 – Self-identify what you are feeling or how you are impacted = self-awareness.
Step 2 – Self-identify the specific action or behavior that you are responding to = separate the doer from the deed.
Step 3 – Bring step 1 and 2 together in an authentic expression of:
1. your feeling or how you are impacted, by the
2. specific behaviors or actions you are reinforcing or redirecting.
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Affective Questions
Ask the following questions to individuals who cause harm.
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1.What was your reaction when the incident occurred?
2.How do you feel about what happened?
3.What has been the hardest thing for you?
4.How did your family & friends react when they heard about the incident?
5.What would you like to be the outcome of the conference?