Constructing an Affective Statement
When responding to behavior (either to reinforce positive behaviors or re-direct negative behaviors with any member of the school community), the following three steps will assist in the construction of an affective statement.
Step 1 – Self-identify what you are feeling or how you are impacted = self-awareness.
Step 2 – Self-identify the specific action or behavior that you are responding to = separate the doer from the deed.
Step 3 – Bring step 1 and 2 together in an authentic expression of:
1. your feeling or how you are impacted, by the
2. specific behaviors or actions you are reinforcing or redirecting.
Affective Questions
Ask the following questions to individuals who cause harm.
1.What was your reaction when the incident occurred?
2.How do you feel about what happened?
3.What has been the hardest thing for you?
4.How did your family & friends react when they heard about the incident?
5.What would you like to be the outcome of the conference?