Affective Language
I Messages/ Affective Statements
Restorative language that uses I messages/Affective Statements are the most informal response to restorative practices. These statements allow individuals to express their feelings. When teachers use these statements they are sharing their truth, story, and showing the human side of teaching.
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Affective Questions
"The affective questions can be helpful here because they let you turn the tables. You still address inappropriate behavior but in a way that asks students to think for themselves about their actions and to reflect on how they affect other people. That shifts responsibility away from you and places it on the other students whose behavior is causing the problems" (Costello, Wachtel & Wachtel, 2009, p. 19).
To Read More Click the Underlined Link: The Restorative Practices Handbook for Teachers, Disciplinarians and Administrators
Affective Language Reminders
"We should strive to express both pleasant and unpleasant feelings. We have repeatedly found that many students are completely unaware of the impact- positive and negative-that their behavior has on others" (Costello, Wachtel & Wachtel, 2009, p. 13.)
To Read More Click the Underlined Link: The Restorative Practices Handbook for Teachers, Disciplinarians and Administrators